If we are to preserve the “self”, we must connect with it in the deep way that only true self-care provides. When the self is preserved, we less often ascribe our value to how many hours we work, how fancy our possessions are, how many likes our latest social media post received. The things capitalism tells us as a culture are ideal: beauty, wealth, whiteness, thinness, popularity, power, lose their hold on us. And the less we care about the external, the material, the more time and energy we have to truly BE with others. When we care for ourselves, we are better equipped to care for everything and everyone around us. And when we see our value irrespective of our status as human capital, we start seeing the value in others for nothing more than their unique spirit.
So here’s a confession: I’m a personal trainer, I am deeply curious about fitness and nutrition, I love strengthening the body, both mine and others’, but I am really, really lazy in my own practice of fitness.
I was offered to join Comfy Lifestyle as I was just starting my new career as a personal trainer at Comfy Fitness. I took the opportunity with gusto and curiosity, but I had next to no knowledge on what to expect. For those of you who are also curious but unsure about the program, I’d like to share my experience.
Here’s an even MORE likely scenario: how do you forgo foods that you know are ‘bad’ for you, like those donuts your well-meaning co-worker keeps bringing into the office? This is where knowing - like REALLY knowing - comes in handy. What also comes in handy is knowing that there are no ‘bad’ foods, only foods that don’t serve what you’re up to.
I met up with a new friend a couple months ago. It was our first time getting to know one another. I bellied up to the bar, and knowing that I work in the fitness industry, the first thing my new friend asks is “So you’re really healthy, huh?” I burst into laughter and said “Not really. I’m fit though!” And then I ordered a whiskey old fashioned.